If you were the quiet kid growing up—the one who avoided group photos, spoke in whispers, and got asked “Why are you always so serious?”—then congratulations, we might be long-lost twins.
See, being an introvert isn’t just a personality type. It’s a full-time job.
Especially when society hands out badges of honor to the loudest kid in class and treats silence like a social disease.
As a kid, people were always like, "Why doesn't she smile more?"—and clearly, none of them had ever heard of a resting face.I wasn’t shy—I was selectively social.
Being decent in academics? Great. But if you lack social skills? Life becomes a level-99 difficulty mode.
To make it worse, childhood is that beautiful time when people think mocking kids is a form of love. They’d point out everything: my teeth, my weight, my silence. As if I was a walking review page.
“Can’t smile properly.”
“Too quiet.”
“Looks sad even while eating snacks.”
Bro, I was just existing.
Honestly, for some adults, teasing kids was their full-time entertainment gig. Little did they know, they were planting long-term insecurities like it was a kitchen gard
Then came the comparison game.
You? Introvert with two besties.
Them? Extrovert who has made friends with the new kid, teacher, security guard, and probably the canteen aunty.
Society: "Wow, they’re so smart and confident!"
Me: trying not to choke on anxiety.
My school life? It was a calm documentary. Go to school. Write notes. Eat lunch. Leave. No gossip, no awards, no chaos.
Basically, the bland biscuit of the batch. Meanwhile, extroverts were out there collecting memories like Pokémon cards.
Extroverts had movie montages.
I had Excel spreadsheets.
But plot twist: College came to the rescue.
Somewhere between “Who even am I?” and “Hey, I just won something!”, I started changing.
I joined events, stepped up, and realized—hold on—I don’t hate people. I just don’t like loud group chats.
I wasn’t broken. I was just… me, needing the right environment.
Now I’m an ambivert.
I can be social, but I need recharge time.
I can make friends, but I also love solo snack breaks.
I still avoid phone calls, though—let’s not get ahead of ourselves.
Here’s the tea I wish someone served me earlier:
Your insecurities only have power if you give them space. They only grow if YOU water them! If you treat them like VIPs, they’ll start controlling your life. Don’t hand space the mic. Prioritize your peace, your growth, your happiness. Be kind to the version of you that survived all that self-doubt.
So next time you feel too “weird” or “different,” just remember: the real glow-up is when you stop caring about their opinions and start living your truth.
And slowly, with time, you’ll become everything you were meant to be.
Introvert. Ambivert. Doesn’t matter.
Just be your beautifully weird self. That’s the best version anyway.
As long as you’re you, you’re doing just fine.
Being you >>>> evergthing
ReplyDeleteI am happy that you found that in college, what you lost in school!
ReplyDeleteLife is not a 9 to 5 job anyway.