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" No Expectations, Just Vibes”

 There was a time when I used to expect a lot—especially from people I was close to. Friends, roommates, classmates—you name it. Giving my 100% felt right. But turns out, that was kinda my biggest mistake.


I used to think, “If I’m always there for them, won’t they do the same for me?”

Spoiler alert: Nope.

Reality hit harder than hostel food sometimes! Iykyk


I love spending time with my people—laughing, chilling, vibing. But here’s the thing: expecting they’ll always be there through thick and thin? Big no. If they are, good. If they’re not, still good. That’s it.

No drama. No overthinking (well, trying at least).


Because when expectations don’t meet reality, your brain lowkey crumbles. And trust me, that pain is way more dramatic than any heartbreak.


What I’ve learned now is this:

Keeping a little distance to protect your peace? So worth it.


I used to sit in my tiny hostel corner, overthinking, “Why aren’t they giving me the same energy I’m giving them?”

But now I look back and go—

“Girl… chill.”


People are just people. We all come from different homes, different habits, different emotional baggage. Some might have mood swings. Some talk differently. Some just don’t match your vibe. And that’s okay.


And if someone really does hurt you—intentionally or not—don’t let it sit in your heart rent-free. Let it go. For your own peace.

(Yes, it’s easier said than done. But keep reminding yourself.)


Because at the end of the day, it’s you.

You are your biggest supporter.

Your comfort person. Your safe space.


It took me a couple of messy, moody months during 1st prof to finally get this. But now? I’m all about doing what makes me happy, not losing track of my goals, and keeping my peace sacred.


No more unnecessary expectations. Just vibes, growth, and peace of mind.



If you’re reading this and thinking “same,” then just know—you’re not alone. We all learn. We all unlearn. And we grow. One mini meltdown at a time.



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